The Nap Dance, or How to Make a Rod For Your Own Back

Here’s what not to do, as a parent.

1. Don’t get your child used to dropping off for a nap on your bed because they drop off easier that way, they can’t turn over yet and you’re going to be in the room with them anyway.

2. Don’t then, on trying to train them to sleep in their cot during the day once they can wriggle about, let them cry for a bit and then give up and pick them up anyway, thus sending mixed signals. Or, rather, one big signal: you’re a pushover.


It doesn’t happen every day, or even most days, as she’s taken to the cot quite well and has never, ever objected to sleeping in it at night. But if I were watching myself on television right now, in one of those you’re-a-rubbish-parent freak shows, I’d be yelling at the screen.

Though she is now asleep in her cot, so that’s something.


  1. It’s all good. If your heart says comfort your child, it’s not wrong to do so. I think you’re fantastic. And in a few months, it won’t even matter (since she’ll just refuse naps outright – ha!).


    1. Bless, thank you! I have a level that I can let her cry to… more than that and it seems to me it’s crossed from upset-but-I’ll-get-over-it-soon to why-are-you-doing-this-to-me?! I can totally deal with the former but not the latter!

      And she skipped her nap today due to excitement from playing with cousins and aunties. And you know what? She was fine. A fraction grizzly, but we all got through it. 🙂


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